Amy Roullier is The Authentic Optimist. Part time writer, full time pro at oversharing. With a no BS approach to conversations around single life, mental health and wellbeing
You might be contacting because you seek forgiveness. You might be contacting because you want to test the waters as to whether I would consider forgiving you enough, to take you back. However I am empowered by the act of no action. The ability to let you pass on by without any need to see what you want this time. There is no need for regret. As I feel only …
It’s really difficult when you realize that you need to walk away from someone. It’s even worse when that person is a friend. And if you’re like me, someone who likes to avoid confrontation at all costs. Plus an optimist at heart, so you’re always hoping a situation will get better with time and that it’ll be short lived, or go back to the way things once were. It all …
I’ve spent the past year really concentrating on self-care. And not just the bubble baths and countryside walks kind – although definitely important in my opinion. The setting boundaries, making decisions that are healthy and not harmful, practicing a little self-love kind of meaningful mindfulness. As some describe it, I’ve been reclaiming (or establishing) a strong self-concept. But the return of the Ex always feel like the ultimate test to …
This is a guest blog by Luke Shillings: I was happily married. That was until my wife began to fall for a close friend of ours and my whole world changed within an instant. I had to be strong for my children and felt like I had to hide what I was going through to everyone around me. I felt so much shame and I blamed many things, including myself …
Recently I went through a breakup and it totally sucked. So now at 36, I’ve become what I can only describe as a begrudged expert in moving on from the latest relationship catastrophe. So how do you recover after someone breaks up with you? Moving on, healing, keeping your dignity and recovery after a breakup are all about processing the trauma and making sure you are the priority right now. …
At 37, I’ve been through enough breakups to last a lifetime – Seriously, it’s kind of depressing. Whatever the situation or reason for a relationship ending, breakups suck hard. It’s why self-healing, rebuilding and repairing, is so important to find peace. Hard to put into practise though. I’ve frequently prolonged a painful breakup by delaying the process. But from experience, keeping my self-respect and dignity as a top priority after …
When I left a decade long toxic relationship six years ago, it was a massive step towards regaining control of myself by walking away, but I still wasn’t anywhere close to being fully ‘me’ again. I’d thought regaining control was just about leaving and in many ways it was. But it was also about processing the trauma, healing, learning to forgive myself and finding self-love again. If you’re on that …
If the average age for people going through a divorce is 30 years old, why is it that handling a divorce in your 30s feels like such an incredibly lonely process? Aged 30 I went through a divorce, and it was tough. Aside from watching the money drain from my account as lawyers negotiated. Pulling my hair out at trying to maintain amicable relations and figuring out the complicated legal process …
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