I’ve spent most of my life being in and out of relationships. And I haven’t always made the best decisions on who should have access to me. I’ve been married, divorced, in toxic relationships and part of unhealthy friendships. Gone through more breakups than I can recall. Lost and made new friends. These are all the blogs I’ve written, on all manner of relationships.
I Forgive You, But I Do Not Want You Back
You might be contacting because you seek forgiveness. You might be contacting because you want to test the waters as to whether I would consider forgiving you enough, to take …
When The Person in Your Situationship Wakes Up Ready For a Label … But Not With You
I’ve been in my fair share of situationships over the past seven years. Apparently, they are on trend. Lucky me, hey! Not really, because the most painful thing about those …
Promoting Self-Priority in a Relationship, is Fundamental to Wellbeing
Are you putting your partner and your relationship, ahead of you?. I used to be that person who put my partner on a pedestal. Prioritized my relationship above all other …
Saying No to Social Engagements is Totally Okay
I don’t know about you, but for the last few years I’ve found too much going on in my social calendar to feel really heavy. Stressful, even. I didn’t practise …
Is being open to new friendships as we get older important to wellbeing?
It sucks to even say that we might need to make more friends as an adult, doesn’t it? Somehow it emits a ‘desperate’ kind of vibe if we acknowledge that …
I’m prepping for the end of my relationship before it’s even really begun
If you are a regular reader of my blogs, you’ll know this. Historically, me and relationships are total train wrecks. I’ve spent nearly seven years in the land of single …
Here’s to all the amazing women we know. May we be them. May we know them
Here’s to women supporting women. The ones building others up and genuinely delighting in others joys. Here’s to the ones being a safe space for their friends, and helping carry …
Online dating: Do We Need to Change The Game?
I mean categorically, yes. That wasn't a trick question. For anyone who’s spent any length of time in the world of online dating, I know you’ll agree, it’s utter shit. …
Valentine’s Day – Does anyone really enjoy it?
Valentine’s Day is here once again, the day generally associated with lover’s celebrating their affection. But did you also know that this commercially designated day of love has actually been …
Do words have the power to change people?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of our words. Like how the negative ones can have a harmful effect, if someone said, ‘I hate you’ or ‘you …
I want more in real life connection, something I’ll try for more of in 2023
Recently I read a fantastic article from Annie Mac on the ‘insidious nature of WhatsApp’ as she describes it, and how it’s likely the cause of her feelings of disconnection …
Married To a Narcissist
I was married to a narcissist. Of course I didn’t know he was a narcissist when I met him. And I didn’t know when I divorced him (although I was …
Learning to let go of unhealthy friendships
It’s really difficult when you realize that you need to walk away from someone. It’s even worse when that person is a friend. And if you’re like me, someone who …
The Problem with Disney’s Prince Charming
As a kid, my sisters and I spent hours watching Disney films over and over again. I still love them so much that even at nearly 40 I’m spending a …
If I had to heal from you, I’m absolutely not letting you back into my space
I’ve spent the past year really concentrating on self-care. And not just the bubble baths and countryside walks kind – although definitely important in my opinion. The setting boundaries, making …
Divorce After Infidelity, Why Forgiveness Was The Best Choice For Me
This is a guest blog by Luke Shillings: I was happily married. That was until my wife began to fall for a close friend of ours and my whole world …
Friendships Which We Think Will Never Go Out Of Style, Sometimes Do
This is a guest blog by Lindsay Thornton: It’s hard to avoid the current media storm around the return of the highly anticipated hit TV show Sex & The City. …
10 Signs Of A Toxic Relationship You Need To Know
According to recent figures, approximately 29% of women have experienced physical, sexual, or psychological abuse during their lifetime, with psychological abuse being most common among women in their mid-20s to …
Are Mood Hoovers Getting You Down? 7 Tips On How To Keep Mood Hoovers At Bay
This is a guest blog by Lindsay Thornton: Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve felt on top of the world and full of positivity and then suddenly, …
Moving On: 8 Steps To Recovery After A Breakup
Recently I went through a breakup and it totally sucked. So now at 36, I've become what I can only describe as a begrudged expert in moving on from the …
What to expect when going through a divorce in your 30s
If the average age for people going through a divorce is 30 years old, why is it that handling a divorce in your 30s feels like such an incredibly lonely process? Aged 30 I went through a divorce, and it was tough. Aside from watching the money drain from my account …
Toxic Relationship Recovery, Regaining control of me
When I left a decade long toxic relationship six years ago, it was a massive step towards regaining control of myself by walking away, but I still wasn't anywhere close to being fully 'me' again. I'd thought regaining control was just about leaving and in many ways it was. But …
Trying to Keep My Dignity Post Breakup
At 37, I've been through enough breakups to last a lifetime – Seriously, it's kind of depressing. Whatever the situation or reason for a relationship ending, breakups suck hard. It's why self-healing, rebuilding and repairing, is so important to find peace. Hard to put into practise though. I've frequently prolonged …
Moving On: 8 Steps To Recovery After A Breakup
Recently I went through a breakup and it totally sucked. So now at 36, I've become what I can only describe as a begrudged expert in moving on from the latest relationship catastrophe. So how do you recover after someone breaks up with you? Moving on, healing, keeping your dignity …
10 Signs Of A Toxic Relationship You Need To Know
According to recent figures, approximately 29% of women have experienced physical, sexual, or psychological abuse during their lifetime, with psychological abuse being most common among women in their mid-20s to early 30s. I spent nearly a decade in a toxic relationship. At 21, I didn't know what a toxic relationship …
Friendships Which We Think Will Never Go Out Of Style, Sometimes Do
This is a guest blog by Lindsay Thornton: It’s hard to avoid the current media storm around the return of the highly anticipated hit TV show Sex & The City. As they return to our screens for their brand new chapter, “And Just like that”….. the show, like in the …
Divorce After Infidelity, Why Forgiveness Was The Best Choice For Me
This is a guest blog by Luke Shillings: I was happily married. That was until my wife began to fall for a close friend of ours and my whole world changed within an instant. I had to be strong for my children and felt like I had to hide what …
If I had to heal from you, I’m absolutely not letting you back into my space
I’ve spent the past year really concentrating on self-care. And not just the bubble baths and countryside walks kind – although definitely important in my opinion. The setting boundaries, making decisions that are healthy and not harmful, practicing a little self-love kind of meaningful mindfulness. As some describe it, I’ve …
